I work with many clients just like you.
Divorced women at midlife and beyond who feel stuck after divorce and want desperately to move on with the rest of their lives.
But after two years of this COVID shit, I keep hearing the same thing, that, frankly, makes me want to scream.
“Once COVID is done, then I can live my life.”
I’ll start dating once COVID is done. Then I can really feel confident.
I won’t make plans to go on that dream trip. What if I can’t travel because of COVID?
Ladies.
Please please please, for the love of all things holy, quit postponing joy because of an ever-evolving virus and incompetent government authorities at all levels having no idea what the hell they’re doing.
Quit giving the unknown your power.
Stop relying on something you can’t control to dictate your post-divorce life.
Enough with relying on something that may or may not happen to determine your happiness and your future.
Because guess what?
The longer you keep delaying your life “because of COVID,” the longer it’s going to take to get out of your rut.
And if you continue to rely on “the situation with COVID getting better” as the sole thing that will help you recover from divorce quickly, you are headed for disappointment.
From now on, you shift your mindset.
Instead of: “I’ll have to wait until COVID is under control to take that trip, take that class, start dating again” (you know you’ve said that before!)
Reframe it to the following: “I am going to make it work in spite of COVID.”
No, that does not mean you refuse to wear a mask.
This does not mean you refuse the vaccine booster.
It does not mean that you’re going to approach an attractive guy at Kroger and start licking his face.
But what it *does* mean is that starting today, you’re no longer going to use COVID as an excuse for staying stuck after divorce.
Need some help?
Take a moment and answer the following:
What are the things that I want to do now that I’m divorced?
How can I make them happen in spite of COVID?
If I am feeling resistance to taking action, am I using COVID as an excuse?
Is there something else besides COVID that’s actually holding me back?
It’s okay to be scared of getting out of your comfort zone…especially after divorce…especially when you’re a people-pleaser who’s been living by other people’s rules and operating on other people’s narratives.
But this is your freakin’ life.
Are you going to let some random virus hijack it?
You have the permission to still go after your post-divorce dreams amidst uncertainty.
It is your right — -and responsibility — to put yourself first, rewire the narratives keeping you stuck, and pursue the things that give joy.
Don’t let COVID get in the way of it.
